- Go where people are.
That sounds simplistic, but to get a date, one obviously has to be
around other people in various places including: school, library,
museum, mall, restaurant, club, sporting event, service organization,
party, and so on.
- Get to know them. You want to make sure you actually like this person before you ask. The person might not be what you think. Have small conversations with them and compliment them every now and then. Try not to make it too obvious. See how he/she reacts. Does he/she listen to you and seem interested?
- Pop the question. If you talk enough and become good friends with them, then they'll be more interested in you than if you didn't talk to them at all. Then, say something like "Well, I really would like to get to know you. You seem like a really interesting person, so I was wondering if you'd like to go to the movies on Friday night?" This is simply a guideline but you should actually have something worked out to say so you don't fumble for the words.
- If they say yes, don't literally jump for joy. Say something like, "Cool. I'll see you there." Don't forget to arrange a meeting place and time. Exchange phone numbers in case something comes up.
- Follow through. Don't play games and stand up your date. Use the phone number if something happens, and you have to change plans.
Young Adults
- If other person has class with you, ask for help with homework or something school related so you can hang out together.
- After a connection is
established, try to find out what they like and talk about what you like
as well, to find a deeper connection.
- Ask him/her out on a date for a "friendly get-together" or movie or other social place.
- Tell them you really enjoyed your date and hope to see them again soon.
Tips
- The person will perceive you as more attractive if they sense that
you have standards. If they do something you don't like, express
disinterest.Give the person some space - nobody likes a stalker.
- Freshen your breath and maintain good hygiene (shower, wash hair, keep clean cut nails).
- When starting a conversation, have something in mind that you want to talk about - ice breakers like "Hey what's up?" or "What are you drinking" are sure losers. If you're both at a show, then you've already got something in common.
- Don't talk all the time, especially about yourself; ask open-ended questions that would require more than yes/no answers.
- Take a deep breath, speak slowly, and speak up.
- Don't interrupt the other person. Let him/her finish what they have to say before you reply.
- Good eye contact shows confidence and assertiveness.
- Do not say or do things to try to impress the person. They will see through this and lose interest in you. The most impressive person is someone who doesn't try to impress.
- Don't swear, pick your nose, spit, or engage in other behaviors generally regarded as antisocial or just plain old gross. Crude behavior may eventually be tolerated by your date, but it will never be appreciated.
- Be nice! People notice how you treat other people. If you go for coffee with your date, be nice to the person behind the counter or your server. Tolerate his or her friends (to a degree of course). Smile, remember names, and don't embarrass yourself or your date. The moment you're out of their sight, they're going to talk about you. Don't let your poor behavior or hygiene be the main subject.
- You may wish to ask a friend to help out if you are a little nervous.
- If you are opinionated, try not to force your opinions on your date. It can be very overwhelming and annoying.
- Try not to get in the middle zone, try to break the ice by just talking.
Warnings
- If they say no, don't sweat it. Just because one person rejects you, it doesn't mean that they all will.
- If you get turned down, just remember it's not the end of the world. Brush yourself off and move on.
- If they stand you up, there's no point getting emotional! Be confident! It'll be their loss, not yours.
- If they don't say no, but say something else that may imply a nicer way of saying no, then don't mope about it. If you really like this person, then ask again some other time, after getting to know them a little better. That will improve the bond and will better your chances at a yes.
- Do not cry if you are turned down!
Things You'll Need
- Clean teeth and fresh breath
- Money for going out
- Nice/smart clothes
- Positive thinking
- Clean and comb/brush hair
- Makeup may make you feel more confidence
- breath mints or gum
- neat and tidy hair
- look prepared
- relaxed attitude, because s/he will think you just want to impress them
Best Of Luck .... :)
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